week in a flash (week 4)

1. I watched two awesome movies this week.  One was awesomely good (btw if you ever want to hear Kate Hudson sing, rent Nine, it rocks!) and the other was awesomely bad, I knew it would be that’s why I rented it. :D

2. Have you ever had moments when you felt wise beyond your years and then had moments where you felt extremely immature?

3. A few years back I started doing this thing where I say to myself “I love my life, I love my life, I love my life,” I started doing it because I noticed than as soon as I started focusing on how everything was going wrong it was easy to fall into a depressive, dark way of thinking where I would start saying things to myself like “I hate my life” and other such things that I won’t deign to put in print ’cause they don’t belong in my head.  I don’t say “I love my life, I love my life, I love my life” to try to erase anything that might be going wrong or anything that’s hurtful to me or to convince myself that things will get better; it’s just a way to remind myself that I’ve got a reason to live and that HE’s always with me.  Sooo…I love my life, I love my life, I love my life.

4. My bro may disown me for saying this but the Twilight saga has got some great characters…too bad they are stuck in one of the worst stories ever written.

5. With regards to a week two comment I made about people, I also want to say that people can also be amazingly compassionate and just plain nice.

6. My summer class starts in a few weeks.  I’m a little nervous.

7.Would you hate me if I said that I actually like Tim Burton’s adaptation of Alice in Wonderland and absolutely hate the book?

8. Two of the best sounds in my world at the moment – the crack of thunder, just the way it rumbles and rolls across the sky and how everything trembles and shakes when it’s really loud – in my opinion there is nothing more breathtaking, terrifying and beautiful all at the same time, love it!  And the sound Jack (my Jeep) makes when it accelerates, the raw horsepower and the strength is thrilling.  Granted Jack doesn’t corner like it’s in the Indy 500 the way Baby (my Honda) did but I love ‘im anyway.  (Yes I name my cars, get over it :D)

9. Happy Father’s Day mi padre! (and all the other wonderful fathers out there)

10. Even though you are underway right now and probably won’t see this for a few more weeks, Hippo Birdies bro!!

Dammit, now what?

I came to a disturbing and saddening conclusion the other day.  I was checking out Pillar’s new website and found out that Kalel, one of the founding members, and Lester had left the band (there is a point to this trust me).  I was taken aback and then I started reading about their new album (which is pretty darn good) and found out it was based on this thing they started on their last tour.  It was a confession booth for people who came to the concerts to unload their hearts.  And then I was there was a video of Rob’s confession (he’s the lead singer and another founding member).  At first I wasn’t interested but the more I poked around the more I felt drawn to the video.  So finally I said ok and watched it.  Turns out his ‘confession’ was that he had, at one point, become embittered towards “God’s people” a.k.a. the Church.  Hi, seeing any similarities?  No?  Well trust me they are there – I sort of talked about it when I talked about my struggle with depression.  I haven’t wanted to talk about it for various reasons, one is that I’m fairly certain my family feels differently than I do even though we experienced the same thing (although after writing about Gram this one doesn’t feel as big of a deal as it used to), another is that I have regained contact with these people and I don’t want them to know that at one point I pretty much hated them, another is that it’s just too damn hard to put into words.  My emotions are SO mixed about it that ambivalent would be a good description.  I am ambivalent – pulled strongly in two different directions.  I wrote about it once for a class and it helped a lot, but apparently not enough (this would be the “betrayal and redemption” piece I’ve reference a few times, looks like you guys will get to read it after all).  Anyway, so Rob goes on in his confession to basically apologize and talk about how he came to the realization that the Church is good.  And I’m sitting there watching it going “yup,” “uh-huh,” “been there,” “yeah I feel you on that,” and then *BAM* “what?”  Looked around and thought — I was so sure I was past this by now God.  Ok so it’s only been six years but still, I’m not her anymore…………am I?

Than why does this not feel done?  I don’t hate them anymore.  But I still hate.  I hate that some of the most awe-some experiences of my walk with God took place there.  I hate that I hate.  I hate that history seems to have repeated itself.  I hate that I can’t seem to let this go.  I hate and it isn’t pretty.  And now I feel a tug on my heart to pour it out in words.  And I don’t want to.  It’ll hurt and I’m sure lead to some unpleasant revelations not to mention that if I do this I run the risk of hurting them.  And I don’t want to.  I don’t want the revelations it’s sure to bring, the hurt.  I WANT to shove it all in a box and forget about it.  But God, it seems, has other plans because my mind has not let this go for about three weeks now and every time I say to God that I don’t want to He responds “You need to.”  And He’s right (go figure, God being right, shocking I know) because I’ve done this sort of writing before and on the other side is healing and a moment of peace.  It hurts like hell and I cry, a lot, and chance upon both unpleasant and heartbreakingly beautiful revelations…but I still don’t want to do it.

When I wrote about Gram I was scared of facing for the first time what Alzheimer’s did to her.  When I wrote about my struggle with depression I was scared of facing those feelings of hopelessness and despair again.  But this feels different.  I’m scared sure, scared of what I might find out about myself but I think I’m more scared of letting go.  How sick is that?  I crossed that out but I think it’s partially true.  For some reason I don’t want to let the hurt and hate go but I think it’s more that I’m terrified of what I’ll find in my heart.  This will be the deepest I’ve ever gone and I don’t really know what’s down there.  And part of the reason I don’t want to know is because “where your treasure is, there your heart will be also (Matthew 6:21).”  Combined with “⁴³ “For a good tree does not bear bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. 44 For every tree is known by its own fruit. For men do not gather figs from thorns, nor do they gather grapes from a bramble bush. 45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks. (Luke 6:43-45).”  What if what I find is a deep well of hate and that’s it?  What if I find that my heart is so hardened it will take years upon years to fix it?  What if I discover that I’m no different now than I was then?  What if I find that my experiences weren’t genuine?  What if I discover all the “progress” I think I’ve made never really happened?  Should I even care?  I mean really.  Life is supposed to be all about growth and learning to be a better person and learning to honor and trust God and live for Him right?  So if this catharsis will help me why am I so afraid?  Personally I think this all stems back to that dream.  Ever since then I’ve confronted things that were put in a box and shoved into the deepest, darkest corner I could find but this particular issue is probably the biggest, it’s like the elephant in every room I walk into, particularly if that room is a church.  Intellectually I know I won’t be able to avoid this, it’s really hard to step around God and go about your merry way.  He has a habit of following you no matter where you go and sometimes gently, sometimes not-so-gently reminding you that you haven’t escaped this task and then when you tell Him you don’t think you can or you don’t want, He smiles and reminds of everything you’ve already been through and says “if I didn’t think you could survive this I wouldn’t ask Gothique.”  Damn, why does He have to be so understanding and patient and loving and right?

Continuation found here